Facing new conditions

February 13, 2009

I went mountain biking today in the Pentland Hills, just outside Edinburgh. There’s still a decent amount of snow on the ground up there – crunchy, a bit icy in places, with a dusting of fresh snow on top so you can’t always be sure what’s underneath. Adds another dimension to the ride, you could say.

You could also say it makes it a lot easier to crash, especially when you get to the downhill parts. Things aren’t what they normally are. What if something you’re not prepared for happens? What if something that seems solid collapses?

Is this sounding familiar, in a metaphor-for-current-times sort of way? I thought so.

I noticed a couple of other things. It was surprising just how easy it actually was to ride in the snow. It was different, I had to watch what I was doing. But as I got used to the conditions, I discovered a new way to ride. It wasn’t just about coping – new things were possible. And guess what – it was brilliant fun.

The way things are just now means we need to do things differently. But as I discovered today on my bike, that doesn’t mean it’s all about struggling to survive. By being aware of the current conditions you can adapt, even take advantage of the situation. You might even have some fun. It’s doing what you did in the past, before conditions changed, that results in you hitting the trees.

Maybe that’s what they mean when they say “We live in interesting times.”


Business Lounge Launch Party!

February 9, 2009

The Business Lounge Launch Party is on March 3rd, 7pm at The Grape Wine Bar in central Edinburgh. We’re celebrating, so come along and join us for a glass of wine.
There’s a special offer too – if you register on the night, there’ll be no joining fee.
Just click here to download your invitation!

It’s free to come, but please let me know so I can keep track of numbers. Tell all you freelancer friends!

Business Lounge is the program I’ve been developing for entrepreneurs and freelancers who want to boost their effectiveness. Innovative and affordable, it’s a unique combination of quality business coaching and active networking. You can find out more about how it works here.

I’ve been working on it for quite a few months now with a trial group, and it’s now ready for its official launch. The program itself will roll out in April.


Your problems are your gold

February 6, 2009

A client of mine often says to people “Mark’s the only coach I know who actually listens to you.” I find this at once gratifying and shocking. A lot of people, including some coaches, seem to think of “coaching” as primarily remedial, a problem-solving tool. I think this is a shame, because while coaching will certainly help you solve the problems you see in front of you, there’s a lot more available to you than that.

So here’s what I want to get off my chest.

At its most basic level coaching is about clarifying where you are, where you want to get to, what you need to do to get there, and being accountable. That’s essentially getting a to-do list in place and making sure it gets done, thus achieving the goal. This is in itself a valuable thing, and some coaching models focus mainly on this.

But the really juicy part of coaching comes in when you get stuck with any part of this process. Getting clear about things can itself be a big challenge. Thinking about what you actually want rather than why you can’t have it can be a big shift. Then there’s the myriad ways we hold ourselves back and trip ourselves up, stopping ourselves getting there. Coaching can help you deal with these rather than continuing to avoid and work round them.

And why is this so juicy? This is where the gold is, because

THE SAME THING WILL BE HAVING A NEGATIVE IMPACT ELSEWHERE IN YOUR LIFE.

Maybe even quite a few places. It’s just the start. So I regard problems as the way in to a whole realm of possibility. This is where the listening my client referred to comes in.

In this sense, problems are your friend. They show you the way.


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